Can you spot when you’ve got into a battle you didn’t want to have? It happens to us all.
As soon as you notice, try naming what’s happening. You could say: “Ok, this isn’t going to work, we are in a battle now” or “Look what’s happening! We are both getting cross!” Then suggest a time out: “Let’s take a minute to cool down”.
3. A few small changes to the way you do things could help you and your child feel more in control. See which of these works for you.
- Find ways for your child to make choices on a day-to-day basis.
- Make sure you are clear about what the rules are and then stick to them.
- Work together to create routines and rituals around things that you need to do.
- Be really upfront about how long sharing turns, tv time or other activities can last. Try an egg timer!
4.When your child refuses to share, jump in with a question to help them build empathy. Try asking – “I wonder how your friend is feeling now that he hasn’t had a go on the trampoline”5. All these fixes take patience! But they all get easier the more you can also give your child positive attention.